Sunday, May 27, 2007

Puzzle Pieces

My readership demands more posts about my romantic life. There are two reasons why I haven't posted often on this subject. For one, there hasn't been much to post! For two, I'm pretty sure I'll be rebuked for some of my thinking in this area of life.

For instance, in the past I have kept an unwritten (usually) list 4 or 5 girls that I have some level of interest in. Despite this, I feel I am very focused on 1 girl at a time. My female friends don't usually buy this, but the above picture helps me to illustrate my position.

Finding a girl is like searching for the right puzzle piece. The best way to find the exact piece I'm looking for is to gather a handful of pieces that look like they may match the original piece (representing me) and analyze them one at a time. In this way, I am able to place all my attention on 1 piece, while still having 4 or 5 more on the radar as possibilities. This is nothing like liking a handful of girls at the same time. It is simply realistic. If there was only 1 girl on the radar I wouldn't ask her on a date, I'd ask her to marry me.

Now where it gets complicated, and where the analogy falls short, is in the fact that the original piece (me) isn't completely defined yet. I am still not exactly sure what my edges are like, let alone how exactly they'd fit with those of another. Because of this, a piece I already focused on for a time and placed back on the table may end up being worth another look.

At the moment, as always, I am focused on 1 while other pieces remain on the radar. This, in my opinion, shouldn't make the 1 mad (though I've learned that girls ON the list prefer not to know the list exists, haha. The girls in the above pic look suspicious of each other) nor does it mean I like more than 1 girl at a time. It's simply a realistic and efficient way of putting these pieces together.

7 comments:

tammy_lynn_77 said...

Seeing as how you're the king of unusual views, this one does not take me by surprise. It's actually not a bad way of doing things, to be honest. And as a woman, I would have to agree...we don't like knowing when we're on those types of lists, lol. You never cease to amaze.

Jo Hanson said...

when i first learned that this is how males operate, i tried to do it too. because i thought, "how unfair! women should be able to do the same thing!" but alas, i'm just no good at it. once the quota of 'one' crush/option is occupied, my radar doesn't detect anyone else.

in other words,

i think women tend to put all their eggs in one basket, so to speak. if it doesn't work out, then she takes some time, simply gets over it, and 'grows' some new eggs (self awareness/stronger personality/healing). (<--wow that was REALLY cheesy). it is only after something doesn't work out, or after she is disappointed that she begins to tune her antenae toward finding another...in short, i don't think we women operate with this multiple occupancy radar, but rather with a more singular vision. but it could just be me. (e.g. i had ONE crush throughout ALL of Jr. High, and I had ONE crush throughout ALL of high school). however, i am, by no means, the litmus test for 'normal.'

Just another case of Mars and Venus.

Elliott said...

I don't think it's that bad of an idea, Matt, especially since you made it clear you are not "crushing" on many girls at once or being a player. Dating one while having a crush on others would not be so good. However, as Meredith on Grey's Anatomy reminded us (I'm showing my heathen side now, I guess), whatever happened to old fashioned dating? The kind where you could casually go out with a few different people and not "go steady"? As Jo said, as a woman I am much more inclined to throw my everything into one guy at a time. But that doesn't mean that system can't work for some.

tammy_lynn_77 said...

Ummm...Is anyone else thrown off/weirded out by the last "Elliot" comment?? hehe...

And I agree with Jo. That's the way it's always been for me, too. Unfortunately, I find that by limiting myself to one, I lost sight of a few that might have worked. And I'm one of those people that, when I like someone, I don't hide it very well, so no other guys would come near me anyways, cause they knew they didn't have a chance, lol. Oh, well. Right now I don't really "like" anyone, so it's a level playing field from here. Maybe it's time for me to change my style...

matthew said...

I think it was Dena :)

She often comments as Elliott

They are so tricky!

tammy_lynn_77 said...

Uh, yeah. I knew it was Dena. I was trying to be funny. Apparently I FAILED!! ;) lol...

matthew said...

oh, i didn't notice your quotes!

so the failing is mine!