Don't Tell the Truth

I am not about to make a case for when, if ever, it is appropriate to lie. But I am quite willing to make a case for when NOT to tell the truth. I originally posted this in June of 2005, but not many people read my blog back then. Perhaps there will be some discussion this time.

When NOT to Tell the Truth...

When delaying the truth...serves the truth
I think this applies to various situations. Only an annoyingly honest person would ruin a surprise party. It can be good pure fun to trick a gullible friend. But, more seriously, think about how Joseph delayed identifying himself to his brother, or how Nathan waited to hear David's response before telling him, 'You are the man!'

When your listeners aren't ready for it
In A Few Good Men Jack Nicholson reminded us that some people can't handle the truth. God seems to agree, in principle. For many centuries He spoke in shadows. We tend to call it progressive revelation. John 16:12 Jesus says, "I have much more to say to you, more than you can now bear."

When your listeners aren't worthy of it
I'm not sure Rahab's questioners had worthy intentions. Some people simply aren't worthy of the truth. Jesus often would not answer the 'trap' questions of those who wished Him harm. It's not as if He didn't have answers, He was simply living out His own statement: 'Do not give what is holy to the dogs; nor cast your pearls before swine.'

When you can't say it in love
I like the quote of Sir William Blake: "A truth that's told with bad intent beats all the lies you can invent." Ephesians tells us to speak the truth with the motive of love. The twin towers of truth and love should never be separated. If you can't speak the truth in love, you shouldn't speak the truth.